The Aloha EQ Podcast
Aloha! 🌺 I’m Ruth Kongaika, an emotional intelligence guide shaped by 36 years of life in the islands of the South Pacific. After raising my own family across cultures and generations, I’ve learned that emotional intelligence isn’t just something we teach—it’s how we live, love, and lead every day. 💛
Around here, heart and science come together with island wisdom. 🌴 We’ll talk about how to raise resilient, emotionally aware kids, how to stay calm when big feelings show up, and how to build the kind of relationships that feel safe, loving, and real. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent, caregiver, or simply someone who wants more peace in your home, you’re in the right place.
Join me for real-life stories (the kind we usually only share in the kitchen after dinner 🥥), practical tools you can use right away, and a gentle ocean breeze for your soul. 🌊 Together, we’ll learn how to worry less, connect more, and create families where everyone feels seen, heard, and loved. 💫
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Saturday Jul 26, 2025
Saturday Jul 26, 2025
After living in Hawaii for 21 years, I was exposed to Hawaiian pidgin, which I enjoyed hearing. This is a brief preview of some of the idioms and humor heard by parents raising children in Hawaii. Please excuse the very poor accent. I thought it might be fun to get an idea of how some keiki (children) are brought up in the Hawaiian Islands. It is emotional intelligence, Hawaiian pidgin style. Not all people in Hawaii speak pidgin, but several do. If you want a list of several pidgin words or phrases, send an email to rkongaika@gmail.com requesting it.
Thank you for listening to this episode of "The Aloha EQ Podcast". The reason for creating this podcast is to make emotional intelligence a priority in the lives of all who hear it. It is not just a buzzword - it is a lifestyle. You and your family will benefit from making emotional intelligence a part of everyday life. Listen to the other episodes, and leave your thoughts and share them with others. Aloha! Ruth Kongaika rkongaika@gmail.com
Wednesday Jul 23, 2025
Wednesday Jul 23, 2025
Introduction to The Aloha EQÂ Podcast
Thank you for listening to this episode of "The Aloha EQ Podcast". The reason for creating this podcast is to make emotional intelligence a priority in the lives of all who hear it. It is not just a buzzword - it is a lifestyle. You and your family will benefit from making emotional intelligence a part of everyday life. Listen to the other episodes, and leave your thoughts and share them with others. Aloha! Ruth Kongaika rkongaika@gmail.com
Wednesday Jul 23, 2025
Wednesday Jul 23, 2025
Welcome back. Today we're talking about raising emotionally smart keiki - our children. In a world full of noise, our kids need more than rules. They need emotional tools. I'll share personal stories, practical tips, and cultural insights to help the next generation grow up emotionally whole.
Thank you for listening to this episode of "The Aloha EQ Podcast". The reason for creating this podcast is to make emotional intelligence a priority in the lives of all who hear it. It is not just a buzzword - it is a lifestyle. You and your family will benefit from making emotional intelligence a part of everyday life. Listen to the other episodes, and leave your thoughts and share them with others. Aloha! Ruth Kongaika rkongaika@gmail.com
Saturday Jul 19, 2025
Saturday Jul 19, 2025
This episode of The Aloha EQ Podcast blends South Pacific and Mainland American emotional intelligence. In the South Pacific, EQ involves showing emotions that reflect what your community would expect. In mainland America, emotions are mainly centered on self-expression. Although they are very different, both are beneficial and rooted in deep culture and traditions. Islanders show emotions through actions rather than verbal expressions. Mainlanders express themselves verbally in contrast. Although very different, they can both be very effective.Â
Thank you for listening to this episode of "The Aloha EQ Podcast". The reason for creating this podcast is to make emotional intelligence a priority in the lives of all who hear it. It is not just a buzzword - it is a lifestyle. You and your family will benefit from making emotional intelligence a part of everyday life. Listen to the other episodes, and leave your thoughts and share them with others. Aloha! Ruth Kongaika rkongaika@gmail.com
Monday Jul 14, 2025
Monday Jul 14, 2025
Today we're talking about the unique emotional wisdom that lives in the islands. Have you ever wondered why someone raised in a village seems to carry calm even in chaos? There's a reason - and it's rooted in cultural emotional intelligence. So, let's explore how island life teaches us to lead with grace, restraint, and deep connection.
Ruth Kongaika
Thank you for listening to this episode of "The Aloha EQ Podcast". The reason for creating this podcast is to make emotional intelligence a priority in the lives of all who hear it. It is not just a buzzword - it is a lifestyle. You and your family will benefit from making emotional intelligence a part of everyday life. Listen to the other episodes, and leave your thoughts and share them with others. Aloha! Ruth Kongaika rkongaika@gmail.com